Relationships should be flourishing, loving, enjoyable. There is nothing more fulfilling than a genuine quality relationship. The opposite would be a draining, frustrating, depleting relationship. We know how to get into relationships, but we don’t know how to get out of them. Maybe, we really don’t know when to get out? Sometimes we waste too many tears and years, hoping for change that may never come. Stayed too long?
Here are a few ways to know you have possibly stayed too long:
1. You live in past memories more than the present. The more you live in the past, you are living in a self-created reality. It is not reflective of the actual state. If the only good in your relationship is, “the way it use to be,”
You have stayed too long. Janet Jackson said, “What have you done for me lately?”
2. When the relationship brings you undue excessive pain. When you cry more than you laugh, fight more than you hug, argue more than you talk, curse more than you kiss!! When you are mentally, physically, and emotionally drained often. You have stayed too long.
3. When you continue to justify your mates misconduct and infidelity. When you cover your mate’s action to make you feel better. You are actually in denial.
4. When there is little to no effort invested into the survival, and success of the relationship.