Dressing The Baby Boy!!

Dressing the Baby Boy!! 

It was my dad who was responsible for teaching me how a boy should wear his pants, his shirt, and his neck tie. Dad showed me how to tie a knot and make tie necktie the right length. Not too short and not too long. I can’t even explain to you the sense of accomplishment that a man feels when he gets its right. I remember cutting his hair myself. I was glad when those days were over and I’m sure he was too. I’m really not sure who told fathers that they were suppose to cut their son’s hair? Who told us that along with being a father is the innate ability to be skilled with clippers? If it were true, I killed the myth. Off to the barber he went but at least I took him.  

The barbershop experience is a bit too much for virgin ears so I opted out to go by Denise’s crib. Her son and Angelo played together so it made for a good mix for me, babysitter and barber. It also helped that she fed him and he spent a night several times. There are special days in a Father/ Son relationship that are just too special to miss, if you ask me. 

I remember about three years ago, it was his first prom and first tuxedo. This is another monumental moment in the Father/Son relationship. It ranks right up there with everything from,”Bring my car back in one piece, don’t be speeding,” to “We need to talk about the birds and the bees.” All of which have already been violated and experienced by the time we discuss them. Have you had sex already? What’s the fastest you have have driven a car? These are questions that fathers ask but never really desire to have or want the true answer. We just say this stuff.  

Opposite of popular belief, Fathers can shoe shop, and do some clothes shopping. Color coordinating and sizes are areas some of us tend to struggle in. You can rest assure that what ever we come home with, it won’t be girly or pastel, but it won’t be too big either. It is going to fit right. They might only get one wear out it but whose counting? 

If I close my eyes, I can remember his senior year and it’s prom time. We are in the living room and we are getting him dressed for the prom. He is wearing white and another color that matches the lovely lady that will be his date tonight. There is something about the way a crisp white tuxedo feels to a man. I remember him getting sized for it and bringing it home. A little different than the average fella prepping for the festivities, Angelo has happily finished a round of chemotherapy and has been cleared by the doctors to proceed with the night. He has a port in his chest but that does not matter much. His heart is pumping excitement and he is about to turn up. What truly matters is that he is looking sharp with keys to the BMW in is hand. It is true, The mind does what the mind wants to do. Angelo has made up his mind that he was going come hell or high water. I loved the look on his face when he went to the mirror to check himself out. Priceless was the look that described his demeanor as he checked himself out in the mirror. “Mission accomplished,” I said to myself. As I reflect, The funny part about his prom night was, he pulled off in my car with a smile on his face, headed to pick up his date. When the prom pictures surfaced on cell phones, he no longer was the well groomed young man in the tux that drove off smiling. The pictures revealed images that looks more a Chippendales male dance review. I still have no clue who gave the ok to

Ditch the tuxedo shirts and just go bare chest and bow ties. His whole crew did it. All he said was, “Dad, It was the greatest night of my life.” I am grateful that I had a chance to dress him.

A year or so ago, Angelo agreed to go through with the Stem cell transplant, in an attempt to rid himself of cancer. It would require a two months stay in isolation with no outside world contact. He could not leave the floor or smell fresh air for at least two months. It came to our surprise, that Angelo successfully completed his treatment in half of the time expected. His release date was fast approaching and we wanted to prepare for his walk out. I wanted him to leave the hospital in style, so I went shopping for him. I went to my favorite Men’s store to hook him up with new threads. When he saw the outfit I picked, he smiled with overwhelming joy. That day he left the hospital looking and feeling Xzrabsolutely amazing. He walked out of that place clean as a whistle.  

Before leaving, he allowed the hospital to record his farewell speech and he was in rare form. Amazing how a nice outfit can change your whole attitude and outlook on life. When we go to the car, he had a moment. He said, “I’ve been cooped up in the hospital for a month, and people don’t have any idea how good it feels to breath fresh air.” I am grateful I had a chance to dress him. 

Right out of Intensive Care, we recognized he needed clothes because he had none. We took a trip to Michigan city to the Ralph Lauren Polo shop that he loves to shop at. He purchased the outfits that he wanted and we were gone. His illness forced him back into the hospital without a chance to rock his new stuff. It was a sad pill we would have to swallow. He passed on December 10th. Shortly after he departed this world, they were going to transport his body back home. I remembered that I had brought along with me, his new clothes that he never got a chance to wear. I said, “Dress him in his Polo gear.” I remember when he picked the shirt out. It called his name from across the store and he willingly answered. On the day he departed, he got to wear his new stuff. I was honored, I had the chance to dress him. 

The other day, it dawned on me, I have to go shopping for him. This trip to the store would be different. This time I am charged to choose the outfit that he will be buried in. Even though he is with the Lord, I still have to pick the suit that the world would see him in for the last time. As Steve the manager chose accessories to match the blue velvet sports coat that I knew he would love, I said to myself, “This is so screwed up!!” I had a moment and it wasn’t good. My heart was heavy and my eyes were filled with tears. I chose the suit that I believed that when he put it on, he would smile. Well, we have two more days left before his funeral and I am nervous. On that day, I hope he gives me that big smile of approval from heaven. It will be the final that I got to dress my boy.

As a Father, sometimes you just have to do what you have to do!! Pray for me!!

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  1. You did good my friend, real good…

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  2. What beautiful words Pastor Wilford. I am sure Angelo will be smiling down on you and excited to wear the new threads that you picked for him to be in. May God continue to keep you and your family through this time.

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  3. You are blessed! Such a gift you have. A truly eloquent writer. Thank you for sharing your baby boy with us. Thank you for sharing his smile with us. Thank you for inspiring us all by sharing your strength with us. Thank you for allowing us to pray for and with you by sharing your deepesest most precious thoughts and moments with us. I will forever keep you and your family in my prayers. Angelo will continue to inspire me to be a better person and remember not to complain! May God continue to bless you and guide you through your pain and heartbreak. You are such a gift to us all! Thank you!!! πŸ™ŒπŸ½

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  4. Darlene Rosario-Reese December 15, 2016 — 7:49 am

    I absolutely without a doubt feel as though you did an outstanding job. Your baby boy will be smiling with joy. He has already approved. He approved each time you went with him. Each time you saw him, each time he stepped in front of the mirror and smiled. You are tge best. He will be the best dressed Angel that day. God bless.

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  5. Love this heartfelt message. Stay strong my friend.

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  6. Your selection is beautiful and Angelo’s already grinning about it. Love you!

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  7. Kimberly Kincaide December 15, 2016 — 9:10 am

    Rocky, all I can say is Well Done. You have fulfilled your duties as Angelo’s Dad and I know your Dad is very proud. You are amazing!

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  8. You had the chance to dress him and did an awesome job, he’s in heaven smiling down at you with approval that you had a chance to dress him mentally and physically. Thank you for a beautiful story of a father’s love for his son.

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  9. May God continue to bless you and your family as you say your final goodbyes to your amazing son. I don’t know you guys personally, but my heart was overcome with sorrow when I read of his passing. i followed him through a mutual friend and would pray for you all often. Your son was, and is, such an inspiration to many. His legacy is a great one and he will never be forgotten.

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  10. You did a very great job being a father, a dad to your son. God is very well pleased ill be praying for you and your family

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  11. Praying, for you.
    A Christian Parent.

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  12. Praying for you, I do not know you all personally, but have followed your Son’s battle on FB through mutual aquaintences, and I must say you all are the example of courage and strength, and you are a great example of a Father being there through thick and thin. I am praying for your strength and this story as well as the relationship with your Son Angelo that you have shared reminds me constantly that no matter we haved to stay encouraged and prayerful!!! May God cover you and your family!!!

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  13. You and your family have my condolences and my prayer. From experience I know your pain. Cancer is a relentless enemy. I have followed Angelo’s and your journey. You reached a lot of people and showed them what it meant to not give up but live life and fight for it. Belief, faith and love goes a long way..remember he will always be with you. Beautiful memorial. Take care of yourself and I will keep your family
    in prayer.

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  14. Well donenough Pastor. Praying for you all.

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  15. I’m in such an awe Pastor Will!!! You’re an amazing father, as well as a man!! My conclusion of that was made, because the very fact that you shared your heart with the world which was Angelo! Who does that? You took a trying time in your family’s life and turned it into triumph! The very fact you have been transparent from start to finish tops it off! This is true faith being walked out in the flesh. It’s one thing to talk the talk, but y’all walked the walk! God bless you and may the angels of the Lord comfort you and strengthen you for the rest of your journey!!! We love you and we are rooting for you!
    Btw: I’m waiting on your book and maybe even movieπŸ˜‰ #DontComplain

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  16. This was so beautiful. I can not thank you enough for allowing us to love on Angelo and also allowing us to witness you guys in your most vulnerable times. My love and respect for you is immeasurable. I’ll continue to pray for you and the family’s strength.

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  17. Yolanda Fisher-Williams December 15, 2016 — 9:47 pm

    You and DeAngelo have touched my heart in so many ways. A true father and son duo that I admire and only wish that my son and his father may have. True example of a great father and wonderful son. I’m sure once DeAngelo made it to those Pearly Gates, God said “job well done!” And to you Pastor “job well done!” I am honored to know you personally. Angel here on earth.

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  18. Just Speechless. Awesome Dad!!!

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  19. Linda M House-Cooley December 15, 2016 — 10:51 pm

    You were a great father to Angel and he was a great son. I met him one time at a banquet of the Ministers Wives. I will never forget him . He helped me feel strong. I will love and miss him forever. I know he touched everyone’s heart. I will pray for your family. God bless!!!!!

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  20. Absolutely amazing!! U have displayed an awesome example of the love between a father and son. Thank u for being transparent with us and sharing your most intimate moments. I have no doubt that Angelo has given u that smile of approval. 😊 Thank u for sharing your son’s journey with us. His legacy will live on forever. My GOD, MY GOD….my hat off to u Rev. Wilford πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘U have given the WORLD a perfect example of a supportive father!!! The love that u and Angelo shared, the courage that both of you have showed and the words “don’t complain” will forever be an encouragement to me. My heart goes out to u and my prayers are with u!!!
    Much πŸ’– Love

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  21. WOW…AMAZING….This is a GREAT TRIBUTE! The best I’ve ever seen or read! So, touching! I’m in tears…What a beautiful Father/Son relationship! You’ve Dressed him WELL! May God continue to give you the grace & strength to get through this difficult time. Praying for you & your family. God bless!

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  22. You did a great job on the suit selection and Angelo would be proud!! As a parent, I can imagine what that trip felt likeπŸ˜”πŸ˜₯

    Praying strength and peace for you and the family!!❀️❀️❀️❀️❀️

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  23. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers, Pastor Wilford. May God comfort and keep you!

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  24. This is truly beautiful! You are a wonderful dad! You did a remarkable job!

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  25. Felicialynn MaBone December 16, 2016 — 10:22 pm

    Praying for you and your family.

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  26. Happy homecoming Angelo, look after your Dad like he looked after you. We need a strong positive angel for us all. Richard and family thanks for sharing and showing unconditional love. Army of one has been so inspirational. Thank you for this journey.

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  27. Well done Pastor…I truly believe that he would’ve been so very pleased with your choices; and is smiling down from heaven with a big sign of love and swag approval! LOL!!! πŸ™‚ May God ever bless you, Sir! Shalom-Peace. πŸ™‚

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  28. Well Done pastor! Angelo gave u his nod of approval. God gave u courage and stregnth. The road can be very weary and dark.Suprise!!!! your still standing,writing and preaching need i say more.God is keeping u and still using you.Man u are one of thee strongest vessels in a loong time.

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  29. What a beautifully written piece! I can see your son “Sharp as a Tack!” Praying for you and your family!

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