If the truth be told, everybody needs a moment. It was the picture I purposely snapped unbeknownst to her. The year was 2022, Palm Springs,the old Hard Rock Hotel, ninety degrees, in the middle of the desert and the pool. The water was three to four feet deep and she located a flotation device in the shape of a white rainbow dragon or unicorn. I don’t remember. She had forced me earlier to consume a frozen concoction with strawberries. I yielded. As she mounted the white steed of buoyancy, I knew it was about to happen. It was the moment that I had planned and hoped for. I call it, “A Moment for a Moment!!”

Please remember, Everybody needs a moment.

We had spent several days together hand in hand and face to face practically every waking moment because that’s what lovers do. This moment was the one I was hoping for. The mistake most make in love is taking and sharing every moment together with no separation and or breathing room. Lack of separation robs a person of that which is most valuable, a Moment. Let me explain….

Every year, when I would go and visit my parents in California, they would always offer advice on my first day of arriving. My mother would say, “Nobody knows you, so relax and enjoy yourself.” It was a reminder to unwind, loosen up a bit and let my hair down. For a few days, I would not be forced to live under the scrutiny of the public eye, the critical and their opinion. What a relief.

My father’s advice was somewhat different but was just as valuable. He would say, “Regardless of how many days you spend here on vacation, take at least one day, go down to the beach and spend a day all by yourself!!” Take a moment/ day in solitude so you can think and reflect. What a mind blowing idea!! Every visit, I would take him up on the offer to take a quiet moment and sit on the beach alone for a day. What a blessing and benefit!!!!

Everybody needs a moment…..

A chance to think, reflect, gather your thoughts, pray, meditate, soak up the sun, talk or even better, listen for direction from GOD and thank Him. Everybody needs a moment. He who hoards someone’s space and time is really afraid that if that person has an intelligent moment, they may come to the conclusion that something may need to be deleted, namely them. The point is, You have to give people space and moments.

It was this advice and opportunity that I sought to make available to my Queen. I knew she would love the ocean and palm trees, great food and drinks, sights and sounds, smells and activities, my hugs and kisses of course, but I really knew she would enjoy A MOMENT!!

Anytime she is quiet and I ask her why, she always replies, “I’m absorbing!!” Moments are necessary so absorbing can take place. We packed a million activities in a small amount of time but the greatest of these for me was to watch her have “her moment.”

I am learning that the sweetest expression of LOVE at times can be affording Moments to and for your mate. She deserves it so I search for it. We started out poolside and in the pool for some water fun. The sun was right, the music was bumping and the atmosphere was perfect. As she mounted her white rainbow Unicorn, we floated together for a moment and then it happened. She floated away in the distance allowing the pool to relax her. I was watching for pool gators who enjoy gazing and looking for their next meal. There was a gay couple, a married couple, a cowboy and a weird chick that kept walking back and forth smiling. We were safe.

When I looked at my Queen, her eyes were closed. She was floating in aquatic bliss. YES!!!!! I didn’t interrupt her and I was willing to stay and stay away as long as it took for her to have “her moment.” At home, she does a lot and is responsible for a lot. Heavy is the load she carries on a day to day basis. I want to lift and relieve not add and make heavier. As long as she is with me, my aim is to be a blessing to her. I aim to be her moment maker.

A great lesson for some insecure person would be, “If you allow them to have an uninterrupted moment of reflection alone, they will loving invite you to be a part of their moment.”What was their private moment will become a moment to be shared.”

After a while, she grabbed. The reins and lead the white rainbow Dragon/Unicorn over to me in the middle of the pool in Palm Springs. She turned “her” moment into “our” memory. People will appreciate you more when you bring PEACE more than chaos.

I took a picture while she was in a solar trance, being serenaded by the pool music and the blue waves. Of course, I was rewarded generously for my efforts. The white rainbow unicorn and my Queen had a moment!! I’m assuming all of this. I could be wrong. You would probably have to confirm this with her. Maybe riding the four wheelers in the middle of the desert with snow capped mountains in the background was her moment. I’m not sure. Either way, I enjoyed watching my moment watching her have her moment!!!

How sweet!! Please remember, “Everybody needs a moment!!”



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  1. It’s rare to come across men who appreciate life partners as home makers. Women work hard too, but because it at home people usually don’t acknowledge their contribution to a peaceful family life. I salute you for your point of view.


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